Singleness: Sanctification Without Sex

Ballard Campus 10-09-11 Pastor Phil & Jen Schmidt
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An Event at Mars Hill Ballard after the 7:15PM Sunday Service for all the single people.  Emphasis: look to Christ and trust in his plan for you.

Singleness: Sanctification Without Sex
God agres witn me or I agree with God
+Repentance looks like me releasing my own view of singleness in favor of God

You are not a couple unless you are married

Considerations for Singleness
(1) - Gift - a great gift from God
How do I view my singleness? I enjoy it and often look to my selfish desires of being self-centered.
Jesus engages the Samaratian in conversation trying to break her view of singleness as a broken gift, he
James says every good and perfect gift come from God, Singleness is that good gift
(2) - Stewardship
How am I stewarding my singleness? I fail daily to live a life that all about Jesus.  I get wrapped up in selfishness.
PMD says that Chirstians veer towards either dependence or independence
Growing in Godly Character
+Responsibility - How do I lead myself?
+Submissive - How do I recieve correction; am I in community
+trustworthiness - Am I a man of my word?
+Perseverance - What happens when life gets difficult
+Plans - How do I steward my day (time), money, and reputation?
+Committment - Do I follow through?
+Service - How am I loving ad serving other people?
+Purity - Does my life show a lve for Jesus or a love for Sex?
+Honor - How Do I treat God's Daghters?
+Humility - Can I admit when I am wrong?
Mrs Schmidt - For the Ladies...
(1) Who is She?
+Does She identify herself with her Job, her sexuality, her independence...
+What is revealed about how she handles her money and her time?
(2) What Does She Love?

(3)What Controls Her?
+Emotion, Circumstances, independence, chronic desire for a husband...

Ladies like labels (sources of identity)

A.W. Tozer "What you think about God is the most important thing about you"
1 Cor 1 - Identity is the most important thing about you

Mrs. Schmidt talks to the ladies in a way that really emphasizes the Love of the Father and the Love of Jesus...When Speaking to women, they respond and are compelled by this message...weird I respond to rebuke and seeing jesus not a love giver but as Lecrae says, "Thug Jesus" from Rev.
Developing Godly Character
+Is she Submissive to Jesus?
+Is she obsessed in getting to the next life stage, the next mission that God
+Prayer - How does she pray, what does this reveal about her view of God?
+Repent - Is this a lifestyle for her? Is is frequent and specific?
+Honest - Does she bear her heart and soul to trusted others?

Purity: The Pursuit of Sexual Purity is not a life-threatening condition?
+this is a worship issue NOT an abstinence issue
God's will is that I guard my heart, my sexuality, my treatment of my brothers and sisters.
Sex was made a a gift to enjoy in marriage
I am to treat women as my sisters and mothers
Men and women are image bearers NOT objects
Porn and fantasy - escape from facing reality objectifies men and women.
Jesus promises to cleanse us from sexual sin and deliver us from our idols.

Expectation
Anticipation of a spouse is not a sin - Have an open hand with her
Demanding a spouse is a sin
+Dating a non-Christian - Result of demanding
+Cohabitation - Result of demanding
++There is a higher rate of divorce among cohabitators than non
+Cultural dating - This will prepare me for divorce
+Sexual Sin
+Setting the bar too low / too high for a spouse
+Fear of Committment
+Destract myself with my job and my service
Submission for both men and women is the heart of Jesus - "you Will be done"
+Spurgeon said - The Father knows what to give and what to withhold

Questions and Answers
How can I practice self sacrifice while single?
+Look at my week, where does my time go?
+How is my sexuality being stewarded?
+How is my money being stewarded?
Is there a happy medium between "Cultural dating" and dating one person to get married?
+I want my kids to date and marry one person - Pastor Phil
+Knowing people in community is what you need to do, then there will be people to vouch for her character.
What are some legit reasons to postpone dating? When will you know it is time?
+Am I mature in jesus? - Not really. There is so much I freaking stuff I don't know.
+Is my idea of a good time playing video games?
+Ask mature people around me if I am ready to date

Will my past sexual sin affect my future marriage?
+Yes, there will be consequences
+PMD says 20 years to get to imtimacy if she was abused or was sexually active prior to marriage.
+Perfect live castes out fear.
+Sactification is learnign to trust the truth that I am fully forgiven and justified by Jesus' work.

Cohabitation without Sex?
+God calls men and women to become one in all of life
++Emotionally, Spiritually, Physically
++There is no committment at all in cohabitation
+Intimacy is built in many ways beyond sexuality

Man Security Team Training

Pastor Bubba                           Ballard Church                           9/18/2011

This Training was at Mars Hill Church Ballard for members of the security team.  I am still in Mars' backup security group so I get to attend. Thanks Steve for letting me know. Thanks Bubba for teaching

At this life stage I need to focus on building deep deep convictions that will stand all of life's violence
Bubba honored Bill and Julia Simmonds' amazing 40th wedding anniversary and dedication
Men are to speak in a way that brings life - the Very words of God
Image bearers - Genesis 2 - value comes from God - IDENTITY
This applies to CCRP
Job Description

1. Be fruitful and Multiply - Build Legacy
2. Subdue Creation - Build Culture - How does my gifting and "plate size" fit into where God puts me
3. Have Dominion - Steward all that God gives me well, rule in a way that speaks the character of God

My Goal in marriage, fatherhood, Job, and ministry needs to be to cultivate people and creation

Parenting

Cultivating the heart of kids, they need structure and to be under authority, Goal is to cultivate their heart toward God

The man was created first, he names the woman, and "the woman was made for the man, not the woman for the man"

+This all implies heirarchy

+He is responsible for her and must take good care of her other wise 1Peter 3:7b applies to him

+He is to steward his wife and his kids

+He is to be the humble leader of his family

The Goal is Marriage is oneness

Fall - How the Perfect system is Marred

Satan engages the woman, he disrespects the heirarchy

Eve is persuaded - sin looks good and she now "needs" it

Adam fails to to protect his wife by being passive

+Not embrace who God has called me to be is a horrible evil

Result of their sin is shame

Man Curse - all of your Job Description will suck because it is now toil

God says because you listened to eve and Satan you are cursed, you should have led

Bottom Line - Follow God and Love People

Quotations on all Subjects

Dreams
TE Lawrence(of Arabia) - The Seven Pillars of Wisdom: A Triumph - All men dream but not equally those who dream by night in the dusty recesses of their minds awake in the day to find that it was vanity, but the dreamers of the day are dangerous men for they may act their dream with open eyes to make it possible.
Parenting
Parents: Prov 3:11-12 “My son, do not despise the Lord's discipline or be weary of his reproof, for the Lord reproves him whom he loves, as a father the son in whom he delights.”
Moms: Titus 2:3-5 “Older women likewise are to be reverent in behavior, not slanderers or slaves to much wine. They are to teach what is good, and so train the young women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled, pure, working at home, kind, and submissive to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be reviled.”
Dads: Prov 19:13 “A foolish son is ruin to his father, and a wife's quarreling is a continual dripping of rain.”
Parents: Eph 6:1-4 “Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. ‘Honor your father and mother’ (this is the first commandment with a promise), ‘that it may go well with you and that you may live long in the land.’ Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.”
Dads: 1 Tim 5:8, “If anyone does not provide for his relatives, and especially for members of his household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever.”
Dads: Prov 13:22 “A good man leaves an inheritance to his children's children.”
Parents: Prov 22:6 “Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it.”
Dads: Prov 4:1-2 “Hear, O sons, a father's instruction, and be attentive, that you may gain insight, for I give you good precepts; do not forsake my teaching.”
Dads: Prov 13:1 “A wise son hears his father's instruction, but a scoffer does not listen to rebuke.”
Parents: Prov 13:24 “Whoever spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him is diligent to discipline him.”
Parents: Prov 23:13-14 “Do not withhold discipline from a child; if you strike him with a rod, he will not die. If you strike him with the rod, you will save his soul from Sheol.
Parents: Prov 29:17 “Discipline your son, and he will give you rest; he will give delight to your heart.”
Dads: Job 1:5 “When the days of the feast had run their course, Job would send and consecrate them [his children], and he would rise early in the morning [he dealt with things quickly] and offer burnt offerings [this is worship] according to the number of them all. For Job said, ‘It may be that my children have sinned, and cursed God in their hearts.’ Thus Job did continually.”
Parents: Jer 29:4-7 Thus says the Lord of hosts, the God of Israel, to all the exiles whom I have sent into exile from Jerusalem to Babylon: Build houses and live in them; plant gardens and eat their produce. Take wives and have sons and daughters; take wives for your sons, and give your daughters in marriage, that they may bear sons and daughters; multiply there, and do not decrease. But seek the welfare of the city where I have sent you into exile, and pray to the Lord on its behalf, for in its welfare you will find your welfare.
Parents: Is 8:18 “Behold, I and the children whom the Lord has given me are signs and portents in Israel from the Lord of hosts, who dwells on Mount Zion.”
Parents: 1 Pet 1:18 you were ransomed from ​the futile ways inherited from your forefathers…
Leadership
With the wolves you cannot be too severe; with the weak sheep you cannot be too gentle. -Martin Luther
No one who puts his hand to the plow and looks back is fit for the kingdom of God. -Jesus Christ
consider carefully how you listen. -Jesus Christ
Little children, you are from God and have overcome them, for he who is in you is greater than he who is in the world -1 John 4:4
The greatest and most momentous fact which the history of the world records is the fact of his [Jesus] birth. -Charles Haddon Spurgeon
. . . in all these things we are more than conquerors through him who loved us. For I am sure that neither death nor life, nor angels nor rulers, nor things present nor things to come, nor powers, nor height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God in Christ Jesus our Lord -Rom8:37-39
The Lord is my rock and my fortress and my deliverer, my God, my rock, in whom I take refuge, my shield, and the horn of my salvation, my stronghold - Psalm 18:2
But you, o Lord, are a shield about me, my glory, and the lifter of my head -Psalm 3:3
“True pastors have enough of care and travail without being burdened by undeserved and useless fault-finding. We have something better to do than to be for ever answering every malignant or frivolous slander which is set afloat to injur us. . . . “ - Charles Spurgeon
“Many hearers lose much blessing through criticizing too much, and meditating too little” - Charles Spurgeon
“As ministers we are very far from being perfect, but many of us are doing our best, and we are grieved that the minds of our people should be more directed to our personal imperfections than to our divine message. . . .” - Charles Spurgeon
“Judge the preacher if you like, but do remember that there is something better to be done than that, namely, to get all the good you can out of him, and pray his Master to put more good into him.” - Charles Spurgeon
“I have no better remedy than anger. If I want to write, pray, preach well, then I must be angry. Then my entire blood supply refreshes itself, my mind is made keen, and all temptations depart.” - Martin Luther
“let each servant of God tell his message in his own way. To his own Master he shall stand or fall...” - Charles Spurgeon
A leader is one who sees more than others see, who sees farther than others see, and who sees before others do." – Leroy Eims
“How do leaders earn respect? By making sound decisions, admitting their mistakes, and putting what's best for their followers and the organization ahead of their personal agendas.” – John Maxwell
“The leader finds the dream and then the people. The people find the leader, and then the dream.” – John Maxwell
“True greatness, true leadership, is found in giving yourself in service to others, not in coaxing or inducing others to serve you.” -J.Oswald Saunders
“Pride ever lurks at the heels of power, but God will not encourage proud men in His service. Rather, He will oppose and obstruct them.”  -J.Oswald Saunders
“Before we can conqueror the world, we must first conqueror the self.”  -J.Oswald Saunders
“Lazy and disorganized people never rise to true leadership.”  -J.Oswald Saunders
“If knowledge is the accumulation of facts, and intelligence the development of reason, wisdom is heavenly discernment.” J. Oswald Saunders from Spiritual Leadership
“Wisdom gives a leader balance and helps to avoid eccentricity and extravagance. If knowledge comes by study, wisdom comes by Holy Spirit filling.” -J.Oswald Saunders
“Humility is the hallmark of the spiritual leader.”  -J.Oswald Saunders
“The goal of prayer is the ear of God.  Prayer moves others through God’s influence on them. It is not the prayer that moves people, but the God to whom we pray.” -J.Oswald Saunders
“The true test of a person’s leadership is the health of the organization when the organizer is gone.”  -J.Oswald Saunders

Children Under Jesus

Ballard Campus 5-15-11 Pastor Mark Driscoll

Tags: Parenting, Children, Daddy

Luke 18:15-17

Children Under Jesus

Sheparding a Child's Heat by Tripp

Jesus Storybook Bible

Long Story Short - 10 min devotionals

Billy Graham comes to the Marriott Hotel and PM gets to meet him...and ruin his quiet breakfast

Jesus here is like Santa Claus at the Mall

Roman treatment of Children

Abortion

Abandonment

Exposure for baby Girls who were not seen as valuable as sons

These babies would be picked up as sex slaves or gladiators

Rome was just like US today - 1.5 million will be aborted

30-60% depending on community go to sleep without a father

every 10 seconds there is a report of Child abuse

Jesus' take on Kids

He bestows particular dignity on kids

He was a little boy himself after all

Kids can relate to Jesus because he was a kid

Jesus as a single man who is not a father and he likes kids and kids like him

Single men are the least likely demographic to hang out with kids

It is a masculine manly thing to enjoy little kids and to love and serve them

Gideon says they liked him and they wanted to be with him because he was Fun

One of Jesus' divine attributes is being FUN

Alexie I think they liked him because he was fun and wanted to be taught by him

Gideon said that the adults didn't think that Jesus should "waste" time on kids

Lie: spending quality time is more important that quantity of time.

You never know when the quality time will surface, so you need to be ready by spending a lot of time with the kids

Alexie said that the adults thoughts the children would be disruptive

Zack said that the adults didn't think that the kids were as important as the adults

Loving women well and loving and serving children in a noble way is the cause I must be about

Children at Mars Hill

The Parents are responsible before God to raise and train their kids in the fear of the lord

Institutions cannot replace the involvement of the parents

Community Groups are set up with families all together so that Mars is driven not by programming by rather as a family

Chrissie C. is Mars HIll's awesome teacher who will be writting and publishing Mars' Kid's Bible and content

There will be a series of age appropriate video lessons

We get to teach kids and we can learn from them

Entering the kingdom as a Child of God:

Kids implicitly believe they're dad's words

Kids approach their father for anything

Kids rely on their father for provision and protection

Kids live in their father's kingdom

Kids carry the name of their dad

Kids are objects of thefather's love

Kids are a glorious inconvenience

I tend to not see myself as a little kids who needs his dad to take care of him

Mother's Day

West Seattle Campus 5-08-11 Pastor David Fairchilde

Tags: Parenting

1 Kings 3:16-28

Mother's Day

Solomon makes a judgement between two prostitutes as to which mom is the real mom

There is no moral highground here neither of these women have lived a life above reproach, they have brought shame on their whole life

Deep down, mom's would be like Solomon, "I don't know how to take care of this little one, please give me a discerning heart to steward you child"

After talking to God, his first case is one where there is no black and white answer, he opted to hear their case and God shows up

The true mom decided that she needed a king to help her, she doesn't try to fix herself first, she just throws herself on his mercy

The second woman's deep idol is revealed in her responce to the king's threat of diving the little boy

Any sin in my life in its original condition is actually a good thing that is twisted in my heart

Any culture that lacks Jesus doesn't become atheist, they become idolatrous

The king holds the threat of taking away something to reveal the heart of the woman

What in my life reveals that if God took it away I would turn my back on God?

Wisdom from Idols speaks folly into my life's decisions.

If I give myself repeatedly to an idol, I will destroy myself and my relationships.

Underparenting occurs because if I discipline him then I fear they will reject me

Over-parenting occurs because I want to control them and replicate exactly who I am

Dream about parenting in a way so that I need nothing from them. I just want to love them, because in Jesus I already have everything I need

When I take a good thing and I make it into a God thing, I have just told God that Jesus in all of his perfecting and sacrifice is not enough. I also need this idol to feel complete.

Evidence of an idol: When that thing is threatened and taken away I become undone.

Jesus says that if you let that very thing that is enslaveing you go, and give it to me I am enough to love you and care for you.

What do I do? Look to him who offers a deeper affection.